Being ignored is one of the most frustrating things on the planet! It’s worse than being slapped in the face or spat upon in most cases, especially if you are still madly in love with someone who just doesn’t want to give you so much as a cordial hello. So, what exactly does being ignored by your ex mean?
First, it is important to acknowledge that it takes some effort to actively ignore someone. Whenever you run into them they have to put out the effort to pretend like you are not there, not to make eye contact with you, and to run from the room every time you get too near. Even if you don’t see them very often and they are just refusing to answer your calls or texts, it takes effort to do this.
So, why would they be making the effort to ignore you? There are many different options here:
1. You have done something that disgusts them and they are completely pushing you out of their life.
2. They are still in love with you but feel you don’t love them back, so contact is painful.
3. They are still in love with you but feel they need to protect themselves from being hurt again.
4. They have moved on with someone else and don’t want to hurt this new person by making contact with you.
There could be some other options in particular situations, but for the most part the reason you are being ignored is represented in this list somewhere. The first option is the most tragic because it all but rules out a future restoration of the relationship. If they dislike what you have done enough to completely rule you out of their life or deem you unworthy of their time, then it must have been something serious.
If you have done nothing to make them go to that extreme, then they are likely still experiencing some emotions for you and don’t want to make contact because they would be vulnerable toward you. Perhaps they have someone new in their life who is threatened by them talking to you or perhaps they just aren’t ready to bear the pain of talking to you again.
Before you make contact and ask them why they are ignoring you, it’s best to understand why you are so concerned by being ignored. Is it just the frustration of being ignored in itself, or do you still have lingering emotions as well and want to make contact to explore the future of the relationship?
It isn’t fair to demand more from your ex than you really want to accept. That means convincing them you want to make contact just to relieve the pressure of being ignored is very unfair. Only push to restore contact if you have lingering feelings and want to fight for them to be in your life again. Otherwise, you could be cruelly playing with their feelings and it will come out in the future.
What you should take away here is the knowledge that in all likelihood you are being ignored because your ex has some lingering feelings, rather than them sincerely hating you. What you do with that information ultimately depends on whether you share those feelings for your ex or are looking to move on with someone else.
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