Not all breakups are as bad as they seem. In fact, both parties generally agree that once they’ve spent some time apart, they start to miss each other terribly, which often leads to getting back together. The key to getting back together is in making your ex miss you so much that all they can think about is how much they loved you and how much they want to see you again.

This means, that if you are serious about repairing a breakup, you should take these steps in order to help expedite the process of your ex starting to miss you.

First of all, you must do your very best to completely disappear from your ex’s life. This may be difficult to do, because you are also curious about what they are up to. Because you know their habits and hangouts, you must promise yourself that you will not “cheat” and find ways to be where they are so you can “accidentally” bump into each other.

Use this time to move forward in your mind and get prepared for the next phases of getting your ex to miss you. Now is the time to get all of your crying and moping done, because no one is there to watch, and you will not lose any dignity by working through your sadness in private.

In some situations, completely falling off of the radar will be impossible. But, in situations like this, you can do a modified form of disappearing, just by acting as though all is well in your world. Do not let your appearance go, do not complain to mutual friends and how sad you are, and do not throw yourself at your ex in moments of desperation.

After your disappearance phase is through, your ex will likely be wondering what has been keeping you busy during this time. The sheer fact that you haven’t had much, or any contact will be making them wonder what’s going on in your life that’s so important that you can’t be bothered to talk to them. This means that it’s time to get out and show your ex what you’ve been up to.

This phase involves being able to push thoughts of your ex out of your mind while you get out of the house to have fun with friends. Because you are “technically” single, you must retrain your brain to enjoy things that single people do in order to meet other single people. Now you must be ready and willing to engage in conversations with and even go on dates with new people.

If you and your ex start running into each other, they will naturally want to know what’s going in your life. Here, you must walk a fine line to show them that while you will still treat them with kindness and respect, you are no longer in a position to make them a top priority in your life. In most cases, this will lead to your ex becoming more and more anxious to spend more time with you.

As this begins to happen, you can allow them small times of access to you and your life, while making sure they know that things are not the same as they once were. Over time, your actions will cause your ex to respect you more, which can lead to you getting back together. But, because you have made them work so hard at getting your attention again, they will be less likely to walk away from your relationship as easily in the future.

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