Maybe you have suspected it for a while or maybe you have just been blindsided by the fact that your wife is now with another man.  This can be a devastating blow to a man.  While the first instinct may be to get angry and do something really bad to the other man and to your wife, if you take some time to think about it before you act on your anger, you may find that you were partially responsible for her looking for something outside of the marriage.

Often times when a woman cheats it is because she is lacking something that is very important to her in her in her marriage.  This may be the physical connection that was once there or it may be that the lines of communication have closed up between her and her husband.  In most cases, if the husband is willing to work through the issues, the marriage can be saved and can become stronger than it has ever been before.

You should start by talking to your wife calmly.  Let her know that you really want to understand what has caused her to look outside of the marriage to be happy.  Be prepared though.  When you ask this question you are likely to get a very honest answer.  She may tell you that the spark in the love life has died out or that they feel like they have grown apart from you.  Be ready because it can hurt to hear the answers.

When you finally get the answers to why she has decided to take on a boyfriend then you should begin your plans to get her back, if this is what you really want.  If her main concern is the passion in the relationship then you need to spice it up some.  Get in touch with your romantic side and show her that she is beautiful.  There are many ways to make the physical connections in a relationship better and if you are willing to spice it up then you will be more likely to get her back into your arms and out of his.

If she feels as if you have grown apart then you probably have lost track of the communication that is necessary to keep any marriage working well.  You may have gotten caught up in your work and simply forgot to notice when she got her hair done or when she worked hard to make you a great dinner.  Women love to be appreciated and feel as if they are a part of the team.  If there is no communication between the two of you then she will begin to feel disconnected and will look for a connection with someone else.

Once you have shown her that you are serious about making some changes to get your marriage back together then she will likely decide to give it another try and to leave the other man.  She had to have loved you at some point and the relationship must have been strong.  If you can get back to that place your marriage will be successful for many years to come.

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