Are you having serious withdrawals ever since you and your man called it quits?The phrase “breaking up is hard to do” is an understatement. It’s not only hard to do, but it can also deeply effect its victims. When you are in a relationship, your life begins to revolve around the person you are dating, and when it ends, it’s normal to feel lost and confused. Are you having serious withdrawals ever since you and your man called it quits?
In case you hadn’t noticed, almost every time a man doesn’t know how to describe an ex, he usually resorts to the word “crazy.” So how do you win him back? Don’t act crazy! What does this mean? Don’t text him mean things then follow up with 10 apology texts and 20 phone calls, don’t drive by his house, don’t call him from a private number, don’t ask his friends if he’s dating anyone else (this will always get back to him), don’t “drop by” his parents house to “hang out”…the list goes on and on. This will never work with a man. In fact, it will just push him further and further away and make him think that you are crazy.
Picture this scenario: A lion in the jungle is hungry, and he instinctively knows that he needs to find food, but he just isn’t motivated. Why isn’t the lion motivated? Because someone keeps bringing him food, so he never has to work to find it. Men are natural hunters, and by always being there, you are suppressing his natural woman hunting instincts. Don’t be always be available to hang out with him. Find your own fun! You’re fun and you deserve to have a fun life. Your ex was not your main reason for living, so there’s no reason your life has to come to a halt now.
Think about what he said when you broke up. Did he say he needed space? Did he say you were too flirty with other guys? Were you too suspicious of him? Well, give him some space, don’t flirt with the world and don’t cross examine him when you see the name, “Kelly” on his phone screen. Did it ever occur to you that it may be his Aunt Kelly? I’m not suggesting that you become naive and let him get away with everything, but right now, you really have to chill and you can’t afford to pick a fight with him otherwise you may never get him back.
A genuine smile is your most important weapon. If you’re around your ex and you’re walking around wiping the tears from your eyes, you will be admitting defeat! You will give him the satisfaction of seeing you sad. As Kelly Cutrone of the marketing and branding firm, People’s Revolution, says, “If you have to cry, go outside.” Even if you look across the room and see your ex kissing another girl, you must keep smiling as long as he can see you. As soon as you’re away from the situation, you can cry as long as you need to. And don’t constantly update your Twitter and Facebook with sad-face emoticons and not-so-cryptic messages about how upset you are.
Hopefully these tips will help you to win your ex back, and you can have the relationship you’ve always imagined. If you want to know the secret first step in order to win them back permanently, click here.