If your man has left you for another woman, you are likely experiencing a wide variety of emotions, including anger, frustration, hurt and sadness. In addition, if the breakup was due to the intrusion of another woman, you might begin to second guess your own worth and value as you struggle with feelings of inadequacy.
But take heart; it’s not over yet. Though some relationships end for a reason, others can be mended and ultimately bounce back strong than ever. Now is not the time to sink into depression. Instead, start putting together a plan of action to get your man back from the other woman.
The best way to begin is by having an honest discussion with yourself. The fault for a breakup rarely lies with any one person. Think about the things that annoyed you about your ex, and how the more you confronted him about the changing, the less he did to change. And though you still loved him, it is very likely that your respect for him began to diminish as he stopped working on improving himself.
The truth is, an individual can only truly change themselves and no one else. We all have flaws that we wish we could fix, and now is your chance to tackle some of the things you don’t like about yourself. Having the courage to reach these goals will go a long way toward regaining your ex’s respect, while also giving you the confidence you need to in order to be successful in any relationship.
Though it may be tough, you need to put some effort into releasing any grudges or feelings of ill will you may be holding against your ex, and even the woman he is with now. Emotions like this are powerful, and not only do they make you feel bad mentally, but they can also have a negative effect on your physical well-being. And, as you interact with other people, this negative mentality can have an unconscious effect on your ability to connect with others and have honest and open relationships on any level.
As you relinquish these feelings, it is likely that you will begin feeling the way you did before your relationship started to fall apart. Embrace these feelings of getting back to your “old self” and start coming up with ideas about how to make your outer appearance match your newly rediscovered inner positivity.
Take some time to experiment with new ideas for doing your hair, makeup and even play with new wardrobe looks. Giving your outer appearance a new look will help you to feel better about yourself, while giving your ex something to be curious about. In fact, he may even begin to wonder if you have perked up because you are being pursued by another man.
Now you are ready to being spending short periods of time with your ex. Either set up a time to meet and just talk, or find a way to be where he spends his free time. As he gets a look at the new you-both inside and out-you now have the opportunity to flirt with him a bit and make him wonder if he made the right choice by leaving you.
It will take some patience, but if you remain positive and keep letting your ex see how you have changed, it is very likely that he will realize that he does miss you and discover that he is ready to rekindle your previous romance.
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