Ah the breakup. After the smoke has cleared and your ex has pulled a Beyonce’ and put “everything you own in a box to the left,” you may be wondering what exactly what went wrong. If you’ve gone through so many breakups that you feel like breaking up is your part time job, you’re probably ready to give up and leave the dating scene. Do you ever wish you could get a date with your ex and fix what went wrong? Well, stop wishing and start doing.
Did your ex always get frustrated with when you would slurp your soup? Were you always forgetting important things in the relationship, like birthdays, anniversaries and where you had your first date? If your lack of table manners and forgetfulness were constantly an issue, go to charm school and work on your memory skills! Let’s face the facts, nobody is perfect, but there’s room in everyone’s life for improvement. If you and your ex are on speaking terms, you can show and tell them that you’re changing. If you aren’t on speaking terms, update your social networking sites with news of the new you! This will let your ex see that you mean business. It’s important that you are truly changing and not just pretending to change, because if you lapse back into your old ways, you may not get a second chance to redeem yourself.
Sometimes the easiest and most pain free way to get what you want is to ask for it. So if you want a date with your ex, just ask! But don’t ask in a stalkish, “I’m-going-to-call-and-text-you-every-hour-until-you-respond” kind of way. Be creative and make sure you don’t pressure them. They probably won’t be expecting it, and they will have a hard time turning down such a sweet gesture.
Nothing will ruin your chances quicker than constantly discussing the failed relationship with your best friends. This will make your ex feel betrayed and they will have a hard time opening up to you if they know you’re just going to blab eveverything all over town.
Maybe your relationship lost its excitement when things became too predictable. Plan a picnic at dawn, surprise your ex with tickets to the hottest concert in town, play hooky from work and spend the day at an amusement park eating hot dogs and cotton candy. Remember that spontaneous has different meanings for everyone so don’t over think it. The fact that you are leaving your comfort zone and trying something new will cause you and your ex to grow closer because of the adventurous aspect of the stepping out into the unknown.
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Know when to walk away. When you’ve tried everything and nothing seems to work, sometimes you have to just let it go. This doesn’t mean that you and your ex are failures, it just means that you weren’t compatible. When this happens, don’t blame yourself or your ex, in fact, instead, accept the facts and move on.